Tips for Academics: Lessons from Queen Mariah Carey

Who better to channel for navigating the ups and downs of academic life than the legendary Mariah Carey? Whether it’s setting boundaries, embracing your inner diva, or knowing when to hit those high notes (or not), here’s a guide to surviving academia, Mariah style.

1.     “I Don’t Know Her” – Say No with Confidence

Got asked to join yet another committee that’s not really your thing? Is someone expecting you to do extra work without acknowledgment? Channel Mariah’s iconic “I don’t know her” energy and gracefully decline. If something doesn’t serve you, or isn’t aligned with your goals, you don’t owe it your time. “A No No” should be your anthem here—set those boundaries!

2.     “Why You So Obsessed with Me?” – Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

In academia, it’s easy to get caught up in comparing your work and achievements to others. But take a note from Mariah: why are you so obsessed with what everyone else is doing? Focus on your journey. You’re here for a reason, so stop worrying about the person with the 500 publications, and keep doing your thing, darling.

3.     “GTFO” – Know When to Walk Away

Whether it’s a toxic work environment or a project that’s going nowhere, sometimes the best thing to do is leave. Mariah knows when to say goodbye, and so should you. If something is draining your energy or not contributing to your growth, it’s time to channel your inner Mimi and say, GTFO—with grace, of course.

4.     “All I Want for Christmas Is You” – Prioritize What Matters Most

In academia, it’s easy to get overwhelmed by all the demands. But like Mariah during the holiday season, keep your eye on what matters most. Whether it’s your research, your students, or your personal life (yes, that’s allowed!), make sure you’re focusing on what brings you joy and fulfillment. After all, all you want is a balanced, happy life.

5.     “Heartbreaker” – Don’t Let Rejection Bring You Down

Reviewer 2 got you feeling low? Rejected from that grant you poured your heart into? Time to channel “Heartbreaker” and remember that rejection is part of the game. Even the best get turned down sometimes. Dust off those diva shoes, learn from it, and come back stronger—like Mariah after every chart-topping comeback.

6.     “Dreamlover” – Find Joy in What You Do

Academia can be grueling, but it can also be full of passion. Like Mariah sings in “Dreamlover,” find what brings you joy in your work—whether it’s that perfect piece of research, the thrill of teaching, or the discovery of something new. Hold onto that love and let it keep you motivated.

7.     “Hero” – Believe in Yourself

When you’re feeling overwhelmed, or like you don’t belong, just remember: There’s a hero, if you look inside your heart. Imposter syndrome is real, but so is your potential. You’ve got this, and the only thing standing between you and success is believing in yourself—Mariah knows, and so do you!

Final Thoughts (aka the Mariah Moment)

Whether you’re setting boundaries, letting go of the noise, or just trying to stay true to yourself, there’s a Mariah Carey song (or moment) for every academic situation. So, next time academia throws a curveball your way, just ask yourself: What would Mariah do?