Mentorship Is Not About Creating a Copy of Me

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Mentoring students is one of my favorite parts of this job. I teach, but I also get to learn a lot. Having had amazing mentors along the way—who I will always be grateful for—I’ve developed a few guiding principles that shape my approach to mentorship.

1. Mentorship Is Not About Creating a Copy of Me

A good mentor doesn't impose their own path on their mentees. Instead, mentorship is about understanding the student as an individual—their values, goals, and unique perspectives. It’s about walking alongside them as a co-journeyer, rather than dictating their route. I aim to be a sounding board, someone who listens, offers feedback, and supports the development of their own voice and direction.

2. Creating a Space for Choice and Autonomy

One of my key priorities as a mentor is to ensure that students feel comfortable making choices without fearing disappointment or disapproval. When I offer opportunities, I always remind them that they should consider what makes the most sense for their time, career, and current capacity. A “no” from them now doesn’t mean “no” forever—more opportunities will come. I actually love when students say no to me because it shows they feel empowered and comfortable enough to make their own decisions. To me, that’s a sign that I’m doing something right.

3. Encouraging Risk and Exploration

Mentorship should also be about making space for trying new things. I encourage my mentees to experiment with different methods, topics, and approaches, fostering an environment where taking risks is okay. I want them to know that they have permission to explore beyond their comfort zones, even if it means making mistakes along the way. Growth often comes from the willingness to step into the unknown.

4. Genuine Care and Support

Mentorship means more than just academic guidance—it means showing up for students as people. I take the time to get to know them and show care when they’re dealing with illness or life challenges. Of course, I respect their boundaries, allowing them to decide how much they want to share and what kind of support they need from me. Mentorship rooted in care fosters trust, and trust is essential for building meaningful connections.

5. No Pretending—Just Being Myself

Students know when we’re being fake. They can sense when a professor is playing a role rather than being genuine. I refuse to put up a facade of being invulnerable. When I’m sick, tired, or just not feeling my best, I’m honest about it. Trying to appear impenetrable goes against my commitment to disability studies and to disrupting the myth that professors have to be superhuman. I aim to be real because that’s how students can feel safe being real too.

6. Promoting Work-Life Balance

Finally, I encourage students to prioritize their well-being, reminding them that it’s okay to disconnect from research and academic responsibilities—especially during breaks or vacations. Just because we’re passionate about our work doesn’t mean we need to think about it 24/7. I want them to know it’s okay to have boundaries, to take time off, and to put their own needs first.

^Conclusion

Mentorship is not about shaping someone into a version of myself. It’s about walking alongside them, encouraging their growth, and celebrating their individuality. The most fulfilling part of being a mentor is watching students become more confident in who they are, knowing they have the support to take risks and make choices that feel right for them.